Headache is severe enough to motivate me to get out of bed and find coffee. Sick from living in dirty house, I feel guilt for taking on all housework, and then getting too tired to keep up. How do you train men who don't care and can't think to even wash their hands before putting away clean dishes. Where do I start. Both of these men, my brother and my boyfriend, were raised by mothers over burdened with house care and cooking who worked as hard or harder than their husbands. At least I'm not having kids so I won't perpetuate it. This is too much, I am so ill, I lost a beautiful long weekend because they were coughing all over the house and I was working too much and couldn't disinfect fast enough.