At Emerald City Circus, waiting for Josh's flying trapeze class to end, not much time but just wanted to write a tiny bit.
This Seattle trip has been really difficult. Unfortunately I opened my appts late because of getting ready to leave, and I'm not sure what's going on but I used to get a dozen bookings in the first 24 hours, and this month I have had two. So I am a bit spun out about work, and what to do to fix this, and haven't been able to enjoy anything about this trip really.
To be fair, I didn't anticipate enjoying it anyway, I'm just supporting Josh, because his friend canceled and he has these flying credits and he loves to fly and this is the closest place to do so since Portland has no flying trapeze.
I do love the airbnb. It's so beautiful. I love being in a clean, carefully decorated, carefully designed home. It's lovely.
Seattle is so ugly. I really hate this city, this has all just confirmed that.
It doesn't help that it's smoky up here. It did not even cross my mind to check the air quality. It's not bad, but it's enough to make me feel stressed and anxious.
I have not been able to sleep at all since we've been here, despite the lovely bed. I tried to sleep on the couch last night and just laid awake from 2-6am. I finally got a little bit of light sleep (with the usual horrific nightmares) from 6-7ish.
I cried during flying trapeze yesterday. It was my third time flying, and my third time crying during it. Aside from the moment of a catch, none of it feels in any way fun or exciting or cool to me at all. I did not realize this in Santa Monica, since we were flying on the pier with a view of the beach and pacific ocean. This is just not at all my thing. It scares me so much, it's painful, I can't think when I'm swinging, I don't feel good at any point except when the catcher is holding my hands, which gives me a sense of relief like "thank god that's over."
My body is angry about it, also.
I had this moment after when I asked Josh to fly a bird (L-basing acro), and he likes to balance me in his hands, and when I got into position, he told me to arch.
I am the queen of arching. BUT. I have been forbidden to do so, EVER AGAIN, because of the bone spurring in my back. He forgot. I do not expect him to remember everything about my body and what's wrong with it. But it was a really emotionally devastating moment. My flexible back has been a key feature of all of my circus skill and it has been taken away from me. So. I feel half alive when I work out, and a key source of pride and strength and a lifetime of development remains inaccessible and hidden and I will never be over it.
Despite being careful not to arch, it inevitably happens when I'm out here and it always hurts after. I'm learning to avoid it in silks but at flying trapeze it was a lot harder, with all of the craziness, to control a lifetime of habits. I've been training my backbend since I was ten years old. To my great detriment, turns out.
There are so many thoughts racing through my head endlessly about how much my body is failing me. The bone spurs in my feet make me afraid to even walk, I literally avoid walking. My podiatrist told me to *never* walk barefoot. I realized this means I need to get one of those old lady thick pads for the shower, since that is a hard surface and I go barefoot in there, obviously. All these things, it's all day long every day. My ankle is still messed up from stepping down wrong on father's day. Hips are twinging again. My menopause symptoms are all still raging on top of this - tinnitus, rosacea, eye pain, genital issues, depression, and more than I can bear to list right now.
( cut for weight issues )Josh is done, time to pack up, I need to write about cleaning and some more morbid thoughts about life at 50 with this crippled painful body and what it feels like it means for my future. Getting rid of all of my things and all of my dead mother's things feels like dying, but I think it might help ease my guilt over having a better quality of life than say, innocent children in Gaza. Right now it's really hard to enjoy the beautiful aspects of my life. I know they are there. I feel like I don't deserve any of them. So I turn away.
I am trying not to completely lose hope in any worthwhile future for myself. I can care for Avalanche and support Josh as much as I am able. Take videos of him while he's flying on trapeze, make him his favorite lunch, drive when he gets tired. That's all I feel capable of at the moment.
I still look for beauty. We visited some trolls yesterday. We did not make it to Jacob Two-Trees, after driving all the way to Issaquah, as there was a bear on the trail on the way there, which turned us around. We realized as we walked back that the park had bear boxes everywhere, so I guess he lives there. Bears are better than trolls anyway, really.