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girl crush
Jan. 8th, 2023 11:17 amthis is my new favorite song.
I love her, she has a faery vibe but also a dark streak that's vicious but playful - I resonate completely.
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Had a girl grab my moon harness Friday night, pull me into her and say "I fucking love your harness," and I realized after telling her she should ask for consent (she was very sweet about it), that what I really need to say is that I would prefer to be askedd for consent first - I think the kink culture still is too embedded with the concept that submissive kink gear = open invitation to dominate. Which is not my intention but it IS many people's intention who wear that stuff. Just because I want consent before someone uses my collar, for instance, doesn't mean everyone does.
There might be people who wear that stuff specifically with the hope that some stranger yanks on it.
Always learning and growing and adjusting, in this space. In interacting with other humans.
I love her, she has a faery vibe but also a dark streak that's vicious but playful - I resonate completely.
...
Had a girl grab my moon harness Friday night, pull me into her and say "I fucking love your harness," and I realized after telling her she should ask for consent (she was very sweet about it), that what I really need to say is that I would prefer to be askedd for consent first - I think the kink culture still is too embedded with the concept that submissive kink gear = open invitation to dominate. Which is not my intention but it IS many people's intention who wear that stuff. Just because I want consent before someone uses my collar, for instance, doesn't mean everyone does.
There might be people who wear that stuff specifically with the hope that some stranger yanks on it.
Always learning and growing and adjusting, in this space. In interacting with other humans.
