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serafaeryScreen time [the book instructs one to take a screen shot of usage on whatever device is used most often, and then talks about removing apps that don't bring value to your life, setting boundaries around time spent on said device, etc.]: "Nearly all of my students are astonished when they take a close look at their average screen time. Bringing awareness and attention to this part of their lives helps to bring light to the larger problem of unconscious distraction. Many of today's apps are designed for the exact purpose of distracting you so that they can control your attention through bright colors, dopamine hits, and gamification. They are engineered for the sole purpose of seducing you into chasing and avoiding [the book talks about chasing and avoiding as two terms used to describe not dealing with uncomfortable feelings, and explains that if uncomfortable feelings are not confronted, we cannot live our most authentic lives and our sense of worthiness erodes). The longer you stay in the app, the longer they keep you in the worthless cycle, and the more money they make from selling your attention to advertisers.
When you give your attention and spend your time in apps that only take from you and give nothing in return, you are reinforcing wothlessness. To prevent this and to move you into the worthy cycle, I urge you to set boundaries with yourself, with your apps and with your screen time, so that you only engage when you receive fair compensation.
Instead of squandering your attention, start to protect what is rightfully yours. Additionally, you may find an unexpected amount of time spent on texting, emailing, or some other way of messaging. most of us have an almost Pavlovian respond to hearing a text chime, or the notification of an incoming message. Every interruption, whether it's during your work time, your commute, your resting time, or while you're in line at the post office, costs you valuable resources: time, energy, focus, and attention.
One easy way to help safeguard your boundaries is to silence notifications so that you are the one to determine when to pick up your phone, rather than being unconsciously reactive to the demands of your phone.
Our devices are not only interrupting our work, but are also interrupting our dinner, our conversations, our sleep, and are deteriorating the quality of our communication and connection with each other.
When it comes to screen time, we are terminally settling for less than we deserve. All of this distraction is taking a toll on our relationships, on our attention, on our physical health, and on our mental health. To move into the worthy cycle, you'll need boundaries around what you're willing to give, and what you expect to receive in return. Here are a few boundaries to consider: 1) only keep an app on your phone if it consistently reinforces worthiness; remove all others. 2) silence all notifications to stop distractions so that you protect the valuable asset of your attention. 3) be conscious and deliberate about your engagement with your device, rather than carelessly giving away your precious resources of time, attention, and energy. 4) don't settle for dumbed down digital conversations. Intimacy and connection are crucial resources that help build self-worth. Invest in the relationships that are most valuable to you by giving and receiving connection through real conversation. 5) set times for digital silence and allow yourself time to restore. 6) anytime you find yourself going down a digital rabbit hole, gently bring your attention back to your true self, check in with your emotions [the book describes how to find these things in previous chapters], and get yourself back into the worthy cycle.
Meadow Devor
When you give your attention and spend your time in apps that only take from you and give nothing in return, you are reinforcing wothlessness. To prevent this and to move you into the worthy cycle, I urge you to set boundaries with yourself, with your apps and with your screen time, so that you only engage when you receive fair compensation.
Instead of squandering your attention, start to protect what is rightfully yours. Additionally, you may find an unexpected amount of time spent on texting, emailing, or some other way of messaging. most of us have an almost Pavlovian respond to hearing a text chime, or the notification of an incoming message. Every interruption, whether it's during your work time, your commute, your resting time, or while you're in line at the post office, costs you valuable resources: time, energy, focus, and attention.
One easy way to help safeguard your boundaries is to silence notifications so that you are the one to determine when to pick up your phone, rather than being unconsciously reactive to the demands of your phone.
Our devices are not only interrupting our work, but are also interrupting our dinner, our conversations, our sleep, and are deteriorating the quality of our communication and connection with each other.
When it comes to screen time, we are terminally settling for less than we deserve. All of this distraction is taking a toll on our relationships, on our attention, on our physical health, and on our mental health. To move into the worthy cycle, you'll need boundaries around what you're willing to give, and what you expect to receive in return. Here are a few boundaries to consider: 1) only keep an app on your phone if it consistently reinforces worthiness; remove all others. 2) silence all notifications to stop distractions so that you protect the valuable asset of your attention. 3) be conscious and deliberate about your engagement with your device, rather than carelessly giving away your precious resources of time, attention, and energy. 4) don't settle for dumbed down digital conversations. Intimacy and connection are crucial resources that help build self-worth. Invest in the relationships that are most valuable to you by giving and receiving connection through real conversation. 5) set times for digital silence and allow yourself time to restore. 6) anytime you find yourself going down a digital rabbit hole, gently bring your attention back to your true self, check in with your emotions [the book describes how to find these things in previous chapters], and get yourself back into the worthy cycle.
Meadow Devor
