It's painful that these are so spot-on.
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serafaeryWeird mannerisms adult children of narcissistic/alchoholic parents have:
1. Apology reflex
2. Avoidance of eye contact in arguments
3. Selective mutism in groups
4. Over explanation of simple decisions
5. Being the fixer all the time
6. Setting boundaries too late or not at all
7. Getting easily reactive
8. Feeling small or inflated (as a way to cope with erratic criticisms or affirmations from their parents)
9. Never operating from their true self
I realize looking back that my parents thought I was stupid, or rather, they kept me purposely in the dark so that I would not catch on to normal basic things that other children were normally educated about, but would also shower me with compliments about being "so bright" - I think as a way to make their lies more likely to be believed, in that, if I thought I was "smart" then I would go along thinking I was right about things when I was actually being gullible and easily misled. Just how they wanted me. Easily influenced and controlled. Who cares if this puts me in danger or renders me unable to keep myself safe and informed about important things that I actually need to know in order to function properly and navigate safely in the world.
1. Apology reflex
2. Avoidance of eye contact in arguments
3. Selective mutism in groups
4. Over explanation of simple decisions
5. Being the fixer all the time
6. Setting boundaries too late or not at all
7. Getting easily reactive
8. Feeling small or inflated (as a way to cope with erratic criticisms or affirmations from their parents)
9. Never operating from their true self
I realize looking back that my parents thought I was stupid, or rather, they kept me purposely in the dark so that I would not catch on to normal basic things that other children were normally educated about, but would also shower me with compliments about being "so bright" - I think as a way to make their lies more likely to be believed, in that, if I thought I was "smart" then I would go along thinking I was right about things when I was actually being gullible and easily misled. Just how they wanted me. Easily influenced and controlled. Who cares if this puts me in danger or renders me unable to keep myself safe and informed about important things that I actually need to know in order to function properly and navigate safely in the world.
