visualize removing your cranky pants

had the funniest moment with joshter in the kitchen tonight that i'm really happy about and proud of, i think it's a kind of breakthrough progress growing up moment? i was super exhausted after going to the studio to sweep up sparkles (they complained, after i'd offered to sweep and asked if the studio had a broom and they said yes but it's locked away and never unlocked it for me, so i had to bring my own broom from home to go sweep their floors, it's fine it's just... let me use your broom people, lol), and then got tons of groceries and put them all away and we had already worn ourselves out at the climbing gym earlier after a very long hike yesterday and i was grumpy, and whining that i didn't want to put away groceries and josh was making things harder and i admitted, i'm just cranky because i'm tired, can you just let me be cranky, and then he got irritated and told me to stop doing something and i was like, i *asked* you to just let me be cranky and you're telling me not to, and he chuckled, and i laughed, and he said, "I'm sorry your adenosine is coming back" which was totally the case (I didn't have nearly enough caffeine today) and hilarious, it was just really funny. then he recommended that i visualize not being cranky after 8pm, and then he added that i should also visualize becoming a runner, and then that i should visualize rock climbing, and i realized that hey, you're just telling me how to visualize being your ideal wife! and we had another good chuckle out of that. (we agreed that i can visualize my own stuff too. it is a pretty good technique. i want to visualize my waistline returning lol).

anyway just wanted to document my silly moment with josh. i think it's a huge step up from our already relatively healthy method of coping with crankiness (talking about it openly, apologizing in the midst of it, i don't spin out anymore, it's really amazing how much better we've gotten at any sort of conflict whatsoever), to be able to laugh it off like we did tonight. it felt so good. i'm proud of us.