eye injury.
Jul. 29th, 2023 09:01 amtrying to decide whether to bike or drive to the farmers market, and whether to get coffee there or drink some here.
normally I would bike, but I burned my eye really severely with bleach the other day, and ended up at the doctor yesterday, and my eye is still really messed up. air hurts it, so I imagine a bike ride would be too painful. buuuuuuuuuuuuut, my saturday morning bike ride to the farmers market has been one of my favorite weekly activities and I really don't want to drive. maybe i can just go really slow? I will try.
i could not handle the pain, it was swollen and closing it hurt as much as opening it, it was so awful. it still stings and is red and painful, but not anywhere near as painful as it was the last two days. I had to cancel work, I couldn't see. bright light still makes me nauseated. which is another reason why the bike ride makes me nervous, I can't wear my contacts so I'll have glasses on with sunglasses over them and that might be awkward with a helmet. It's going to be really difficult but I really want to try. I think if I do my hydrating eye drops right before, and just take it easy, I can do it.
I comfort-ate all day for two days straight (bread and tortillas) and couldn't exercise at all and am now trying to detox. I gained 4lbs. the joys of perimenopause, I can't make *any* mistakes in my food intake without immediately paying for it. i'm embarrassed at what my belly looks like, all of my weight goes directly to my middle ("cortisol belly" aka stress/menopause belly aka inflammation) and i get so self-conscious about how it sticks out over my waistband. I will literally walk around with my hand over it. I look permampreg. even though i'm 5'8" and super muscular from circus and only 130lbs. I basically have to be underweight to look normal. It's genetic, my whole family has this, people used to ask me if my mom was pregnant all of the time (when 20lbs overweight and only 5'4", hers was a lot more pronounced).
I did walk for an hour in circles around the courtyard last night. I will up my movement today but I don't think I can run yet.
so stressful to be hurt.
I will be so happy to have my eye back to normal.
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I had to cat-sit for my brother while injured and thought I was going to throw up while driving, before I realized how bad my eye really was.
I've been thinking about how to handle his bigotry (he thinks all societal ills are due to our acceptance of gay and trans lifestyles - this is *not* how we were raised and is the influence of a lady he is obsessed with but only has a telephone relationship with, he is converting to Catholicism for her even though in my opinion she is stringing him along) and suddenly he has all this hate. he's also one of those "all lives matter" people but that was before this lady thing - I think it's the influence of his current friend group. bunch of 60-something AA/sober white dudes who like to "go Jeeping" or go on cruises or play frisbee golf or whatever. It's frustrating when the best caretaker mom ever had before she died was a black family and my brother seemed to love them - somehow loving them doesn't conflict with his "all lives matter" attitude which just further confuses me.
mom would have been appalled. I'm glad she's not here to see it. Although like me, she would probably just go along with it while in his presence, because he can't tolerate criticism or conflicting feedback of any kind without flipping out and he has a vicious temper.
I hate that I have to do that, it makes me feel sick, but I also don't feel like confronting him would be worth it - I know i'm not going to change his mind. he knows I've been an atheist since I was 14 and he still talks to me about god as if it is fact. he is disrespectful and dismissive about my beliefs. but i have to tolerate his. he's a bully in this respect. but i love him and i don't want to lose that relationship. he's the only person left who remembers our mom and dad, before they were sick, and loves them. my step-damily remembers somewhat, but it's different and more superficial and my dad is probably a faint memory to them at this point. but it makes me so physically ill to be around my brother at this point. it's so hard to watch him kill himself slowly with food and work, while his words about "getting healthier" conflict wildly with his behaviors. i don't know what to do. it's such a helpless feeling. all i want to do is avoid him.
normally I would bike, but I burned my eye really severely with bleach the other day, and ended up at the doctor yesterday, and my eye is still really messed up. air hurts it, so I imagine a bike ride would be too painful. buuuuuuuuuuuuut, my saturday morning bike ride to the farmers market has been one of my favorite weekly activities and I really don't want to drive. maybe i can just go really slow? I will try.
i could not handle the pain, it was swollen and closing it hurt as much as opening it, it was so awful. it still stings and is red and painful, but not anywhere near as painful as it was the last two days. I had to cancel work, I couldn't see. bright light still makes me nauseated. which is another reason why the bike ride makes me nervous, I can't wear my contacts so I'll have glasses on with sunglasses over them and that might be awkward with a helmet. It's going to be really difficult but I really want to try. I think if I do my hydrating eye drops right before, and just take it easy, I can do it.
I comfort-ate all day for two days straight (bread and tortillas) and couldn't exercise at all and am now trying to detox. I gained 4lbs. the joys of perimenopause, I can't make *any* mistakes in my food intake without immediately paying for it. i'm embarrassed at what my belly looks like, all of my weight goes directly to my middle ("cortisol belly" aka stress/menopause belly aka inflammation) and i get so self-conscious about how it sticks out over my waistband. I will literally walk around with my hand over it. I look permampreg. even though i'm 5'8" and super muscular from circus and only 130lbs. I basically have to be underweight to look normal. It's genetic, my whole family has this, people used to ask me if my mom was pregnant all of the time (when 20lbs overweight and only 5'4", hers was a lot more pronounced).
I did walk for an hour in circles around the courtyard last night. I will up my movement today but I don't think I can run yet.
so stressful to be hurt.
I will be so happy to have my eye back to normal.
...
I had to cat-sit for my brother while injured and thought I was going to throw up while driving, before I realized how bad my eye really was.
I've been thinking about how to handle his bigotry (he thinks all societal ills are due to our acceptance of gay and trans lifestyles - this is *not* how we were raised and is the influence of a lady he is obsessed with but only has a telephone relationship with, he is converting to Catholicism for her even though in my opinion she is stringing him along) and suddenly he has all this hate. he's also one of those "all lives matter" people but that was before this lady thing - I think it's the influence of his current friend group. bunch of 60-something AA/sober white dudes who like to "go Jeeping" or go on cruises or play frisbee golf or whatever. It's frustrating when the best caretaker mom ever had before she died was a black family and my brother seemed to love them - somehow loving them doesn't conflict with his "all lives matter" attitude which just further confuses me.
mom would have been appalled. I'm glad she's not here to see it. Although like me, she would probably just go along with it while in his presence, because he can't tolerate criticism or conflicting feedback of any kind without flipping out and he has a vicious temper.
I hate that I have to do that, it makes me feel sick, but I also don't feel like confronting him would be worth it - I know i'm not going to change his mind. he knows I've been an atheist since I was 14 and he still talks to me about god as if it is fact. he is disrespectful and dismissive about my beliefs. but i have to tolerate his. he's a bully in this respect. but i love him and i don't want to lose that relationship. he's the only person left who remembers our mom and dad, before they were sick, and loves them. my step-damily remembers somewhat, but it's different and more superficial and my dad is probably a faint memory to them at this point. but it makes me so physically ill to be around my brother at this point. it's so hard to watch him kill himself slowly with food and work, while his words about "getting healthier" conflict wildly with his behaviors. i don't know what to do. it's such a helpless feeling. all i want to do is avoid him.