kitty woes.
Jan. 22nd, 2021 10:22 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
serafaeryjust want to vent for a moment, that the girl who owned the fernie brae, where i worked before pandemic shut us all down, when she lost her beloved elder cat familiar the year before last, went and got she and her 6yo son a kitten. that kitten was very clearly (to me) difficult from the beginning. i remember feeling oddly resentful and irritated that i didn't have a kitten, but glad i knew better than to go get one. it's asking for trouble.
now she's decided the kitten needs to be rehomed. because it is peeing on her couch, and "stressed" by the "kid energy" in her house.
she has had tact enough not to ask me directly to take Moon. But some mutual friends have all started tagging me in her re-homing posts.
No.
You do not get to have the joy of having a kitten, and as soon as it gets difficult, pawn off the difficult cat onto your friend who is known for handling difficult cats. I don't deserve that, after everything I've been through. There is a reason I don't pick up random kittens. It is asking for two decades of difficulty. I did not ask for Moon. I would not have picked out Moon for my kitten. She did not resonate with me, cute as she was as a baby. I very purposefully did not do the irresponsible thing and go get a cat that I didn't know or understand. I am not cleaning up another person's mess.
I wish people would think before they make these sorts of "well-meaning" attempts to help. Do they think I don't know that Bryonie is trying to get rid of Moon? I don't want her or I would have taken her months ago, when she first started complaining about the pee. It's not. my. problem. She made her choice and now she will have to deal with the consequences, not me.
I feel bad for her and the cat, but she will be rehomed, it will be fine, or she will be euthanized and to be real that would be fine, too. Death is better than prolonged suffering.
I do want a cat. but I keep getting messages that I need to hold out for a dog. Or perhaps a cat-dog combo at some point. Shelters are swamped with adoptions, they are all empty. Even Sunny and Violet, the two shy black fuzzballs at Darwin's shelter, got snatched up. I don't need a cat right now, I can barely take care of myself.
now she's decided the kitten needs to be rehomed. because it is peeing on her couch, and "stressed" by the "kid energy" in her house.
she has had tact enough not to ask me directly to take Moon. But some mutual friends have all started tagging me in her re-homing posts.
No.
You do not get to have the joy of having a kitten, and as soon as it gets difficult, pawn off the difficult cat onto your friend who is known for handling difficult cats. I don't deserve that, after everything I've been through. There is a reason I don't pick up random kittens. It is asking for two decades of difficulty. I did not ask for Moon. I would not have picked out Moon for my kitten. She did not resonate with me, cute as she was as a baby. I very purposefully did not do the irresponsible thing and go get a cat that I didn't know or understand. I am not cleaning up another person's mess.
I wish people would think before they make these sorts of "well-meaning" attempts to help. Do they think I don't know that Bryonie is trying to get rid of Moon? I don't want her or I would have taken her months ago, when she first started complaining about the pee. It's not. my. problem. She made her choice and now she will have to deal with the consequences, not me.
I feel bad for her and the cat, but she will be rehomed, it will be fine, or she will be euthanized and to be real that would be fine, too. Death is better than prolonged suffering.
I do want a cat. but I keep getting messages that I need to hold out for a dog. Or perhaps a cat-dog combo at some point. Shelters are swamped with adoptions, they are all empty. Even Sunny and Violet, the two shy black fuzzballs at Darwin's shelter, got snatched up. I don't need a cat right now, I can barely take care of myself.
